I’m projecting forward to the end of strict social distancing and face a dilemma I cannot figure out. I’m an ethically non-monogamous female, currently involved with two great men. I live with neither of them, so am of course not seeing them physically right now. One I have been dating for longer, we have a very supportive bond and great sex, with no illusions of coupledom. (He’s in an open marriage which I am very ok with.) The other I met right before this pandemishegoss got started. We have been hot and heavy through technology, but have not had the opportunity to have sex yet.
So here’s the rub. Both are well-hung men. Picture and video attached strictly for verification purposes. (And thought you could use the pick-me-up!) Sex with either one of these men, especially after being pent up, is bound to leave my small-ish pussy sore, even with lots of lube and foreplay. Night-long sessions are planned with both. Both want to see me as soon as possible. But I can only see one first!
I’ll need a couple days rest between them but I don’t want to hurt either’s feelings by choosing the other to be first at bat. My pussy’s preference is the new guy, only for the novelty, but emotionally I’m much more tied to my other partner, who has been so great to me. I’m really looking forward to reconnecting with him. He would be supportive if I told him I wanted to see the other guy first but I’m worried a little part of him would be hurt. I’m also worried that this would be a dick move on my part. He and his wife don’t have sex, so he is just as sexually frustrated as anyone who’s currently living alone.
I don’t know what to do.
Fabulously Intense Relationships Turning Up Problems
There are two guys, both of them sweethearts, both anxious to fuck you, and both with huge beautiful dicks.
We can safely file this one under “good problem(s) to have.”
I think you should listen to your heart, FIRSTUP, which is telling you to prioritize the feelings—and the huge beautiful dick—of Mr. LongTerm. You say he’s “been so great” to you and that you’re tied to him emotionally. So it’s not just sexual. The sex is great with Mr. LongTerm but it would seem he’s been good to and for you in other ways. Assuming that means he’s come through for you—not just in you—and been there for you when you needed his emotional, social, or logistical support, well, that tips the balance in his favor. If Mr. LongTerm was just a fuckbuddy and it was a purely transactional relationship and he hadn’t been there for you when you needed him for something other than that big beautiful dick, FIRSTUP, then I’d tell you to listen to your pussy and fuck the other guy. But Mr. LongTerm isn’t just a fuckbuddy. Mr. NewGuy can wait another couple of days while you pussy recovers from your reunion with Mr. LongTerm. Think of it as two more days for the erotic tension to build—not only will that make the sex with Mr. NewGuy better when it finally does happen, worries that Mr. LongTerm won’t distract you from Mr. NewGuy’s big beautiful dick and ruin the sex.
Also, you haven’t had sex with Mr. NewGuy yet. You’ve seen dick and you’ve had some hot times online. But imagine how disappointed you’ll be if you go with him first and he’s bad at sex. While you know the sex with Mr. LongTerm is great, you can’t say that about Mr. NewGuy. Go with the sure thing and do the right thing: Fuck Mr. LongTerm first.
Or if you can’t choose, well, then propose an MMF threesome. Their cocks—in my expert opinion—look similarly sized. Your pussy would need a couple of days to bounce back after a session with one of them. But you could have a session with both where they took turns and then your could head home and rest up for some solo sessions with both later in the week.
