I don't know man, there's a lot of people fucking a lot of people around here. Maybe you should go somewhere where the guys aren't wearing cardigans reading a book at the bar.

It's not just Portland. Though (in my experience) it's easy to find someone to have sex with, while it's nearly impossible to find someone to be in a relationship of more than sex lest they disappear because "too much pressure/not interested in anything serious/have too much other stuff going on/trying to get my shit together/just want to chill/have to focus on my job/art/band/oh yeah girlfriend/blah blah blah/etc.

15 years ago I moved to Seattle and lived there for 5 years. Every "grown man" (I was in my early 30s at the time) I dated smoked pot 24/7, played video games obsessively, was jealous of my gay male best friend (one guy actually asked me why I would spend so much time with someone I couldn't fuck, to which I responded - because he's a hell of a lot more fun and interesting to spend time with than YOU), was passive aggressive beyond belief if you weren't willing to fuck the first time you met them or were completely sexually ambiguous and asexual to such a degree I failed to understand why they were going on dates with women.

Before that I lived in NYC and it was no better there, though it wasn't about pot smoking/video games/sexual ambiguity, it was about whatever they were doing that was more important to them than human interaction (other than getting their dick wet, when THEY wanted to and only when they wanted to).

I've never, ever starved myself, dumbed myself down, feigned interest in things I don't care about, or suppressed who I am in any way in order to please someone else for the sake of getting laid or being in a relationship. This is a deal breaker for many men. Now that I am physically disabled with a progressive, degenerative neuromuscular disease (that will kill me, eventually), I have no interest in dating. Most men want to be taken care of and I have my hands full taking care of myself.

Good luck. I hope you find what you're looking for.

The sad thing is, these douchebags are getting laid. Pornography culture has inundated the mainstream to the point that women participate in pleasing these human boogers and will even fight each other for the opportunity. Listen to the "hookup culture" podcast on NPR. It spells it all out pretty clearly.

Yeah, I get there are a bit of douche nozzles out there. I do apologize for the lack of personality or even human decency in these self absorbed fuckers.
I just find it odd when there is some decent gems of guys who know how to connect with others. Who actually care about and enjoy the person they are talking to.
But if he doesn't dress like a pompous hipster, or is carrying some extra pounds. Then it becomes a "men have no heart and are undateble." Maybe next time, offer some fashion advice. Or show the slightest encouragement to that nice guy who's at least trying to improve. And that last bit should be for everyone trying to make something better from their life. I'm not trying to be bitter or disrespectful. I'm sorry if I gave you that impression. I hope guys take some stock in themselves and you find one.