• I’m a neg boy who loves getting bred by mature poz men. I want their loads in me, no questions asked. I’m not on PrEP. Too deviant? 

Too stupid, too reckless — and too old and too tired. The gay world was roiled by “bug chasers” (HIV-negative gay men who were trying to get themselves infected) and “gift givers” (HIV-positive men/sociopaths who were willing to infect other people) a couple of decades ago. The stakes were higher then — literally life and death — but today you’re flying with a net: so long as have access to HIV medications, you’ll be fine. But you shouldn’t take that access/net for granted: religious conservatives don’t just want to make abortion illegal and ban birth control — they wanna ban the death control gay men rely on, e.g., PrEP (protects neg guys from infection) and antiretroviral treatments (keeps poz guys alive). Taking loads from poz guys — immature men, regardless of age — may wind up having consequences you didn’t see coming.

 • Best resources for newly self-discovered ace? I’m sex neutral.
I’m guessing you’ve already found your way to some online resources, seeing as you’re using ace-y jargon like “sex neutral.” But just in case: The Asexuality Visibility and Education Network (www.asexuality.org) remains an invaluable resource — but if you prefer something more informal, Cody Daigle-Orians, aka “Ace Dad Advice,” has built a supportive community on Instagram (@AceDadAdvice) and his Substack (acedadadvice.substack.com).

 • How much masturbation is too much masturbation?
If you’re beating holes in your dick and/or overtaxing the grid with your vibrators, you might need to dial it back a bit.

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