Iโ€™m a cis gay man in Canada. Other than my supportive enby partner of five years and a few close friends, most people in my life donโ€™t know that Iโ€™m a fetish content creator. My stuff delves into the foot porn/macrophilia (love of giants) space. I donโ€™t make enough to live off, but itโ€™s a good side hustle; I earn enough to help with bills and groceries. Plus, creating this content has resulted in meeting people with the same paraphilias and fantasies. Being a kink content creator has many more pros than cons and it allows me to share my sexual interests with willing and understanding people โ€” which is a great thing, as my combination of fetishes is pretty rare. I do all of this faceless. Save for the handful of times Iโ€™ve posted a glimpse of my face on my OnlyFans account, Iโ€™ve never shown my face on public platforms. I am self-employed, so I donโ€™t have to worry about my boss finding out and firing me, since I am my own boss. But the โ€œinternet is foreverโ€ and I fear repercussions if I change careers in the future. How best to navigate this?

Fearful About Coming Employment Situation

โ€œThe internet is forever,โ€ said Aaron, a 30-year-old gay man and BDSM content creator. โ€œI see news articles every week about people losing jobs after someone sent their OnlyFans account to their employer.โ€ Which is why Aaron and his fiancรฉ John, a 25-year-old gay man who shares his love of bondage, both wear masks in the videos they share on their JustForFans account. โ€œUntil we live in a world where no one is shamed for their sexual interests and what they choose to do in their free time,โ€ said Aaron, โ€œshowing our faces is not worth the risk to our careers or our relationships with friends and family.โ€

The couple had been posting short bondage clips on Twitter before the pandemic hit and then โ€” like a lot of people stuck at home during lockdowns โ€” they decided to get on OnlyFans.

โ€œAt the time we figured, โ€˜Why not?โ€™โ€ said Aaron. โ€œPeople seemed to like the stuff we enjoyed posting for free and now anyone who wanted to see more of us could subscribe โ€” and could make some money doing what we love.โ€ Aaron and John agreed to stop if posting their content began to overwhelm their sex life. โ€œBut four years later, weโ€™re still sharing our kinky faceless content and it has not only broadened our exploration in the world of kink, but โ€” just like FACES โ€” sharing our fetish content has led to many wonderful IRL connections.โ€

Some fans have begged Aaron and John to show their faces โ€” a few have offered to pay them more if they remove their masks โ€” but their reasons for remaining anonymous are sound, FACES, and may resonate with you.

โ€œThe extra money is a huge perk โ€” we earn between two and three thousand dollars per month โ€” but itโ€™s not consistent money,โ€ said Aaron. โ€œFor example, our original Only fans account was pretty short lived. The companyโ€™s stance on porn changed one day, and suddenly all our content was banned for being โ€˜extreme,โ€™ and that money disappeared. Weโ€™ve also been suspended from Twitter after posts got reported as โ€˜violenceโ€™ by people who donโ€™t understand consensual BDSM. So, unless FACES has some other means of support besides his foot porn and macrophilia content, putting his face out there for the sake of a little extra cash that may or may not be there next month isnโ€™t worth it.โ€

For the record, not all of Aaron and Johnโ€™s fans hate their masks.

โ€œWe each wear a particular mask while filming,โ€ said Aaron, โ€œand to our surprise, some of our subscribers have started to fetishize the masks we wear. Now weโ€™ve got people asking where they can buy masks and hoods like the ones we wear in our videos!โ€

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