Originally posted on June 20, 2012.
Is it normal for my man to be so attracted to boobs that even though mine are beautiful and perfect, my boyfriend still wants to look at every other woman with a set of big boobs that he can? Aren’t mine enough?
Boyfriend Ogles Other Breasts
My response after the jump…
You sound like a new reader, BOOB, so before we get to the advice, I wanna welcome you to the Savage Love family. With that out of the way…
Nope, yours aren’t enough.
Yep, it’s normal for a straight man to look at women’s boobs—boobs on the woman he’s with, boobs on women he’s not with, boobs on women who don’t technically exist and can’t be gotten with, e.g., Veronica Lodge, Lara Croft, Nicki Minaj. Did you think checking out boobs was a symptom of leukemia or something? And while your set may be practically perfect in every way—which would make you the Mary Poppins of boobs—your man is still gonna check out other women’s sets.
But your man shouldn’t be a dick about it. While it’s perfectly normal for a partnered straight guy to check out other women—just as it’s perfectly normal for a partnered straight woman to check out other men (see you at Magic Mike this weekend, ladies)—your man should be discreet. He can train himself to look without looking like he’s looking; he can learn to check out other women without ogling them. It’s not about hiding the fact that he’s looking, it’s about caring enough to take your feelings into consideration, BOOB, to say nothing of the feelings of the other women he’s checking out.
And if he can look without being an inconsiderate dick about it, BOOB, you should let him look without being an insecure bitch about it—don’t blow up or melt down if you catch him taking a quick, subtle look at another woman’s boobs. Because if he’s considerate enough to be discreet, BOOB, you can be considerate enough to turn a blind eye.
