I have enjoyed your column for a long time. Unfortunately, the time has come for us to part. Your pro-pornography stance had always been problematic for me, and Thursday’s QOD was the last straw. No, all men do not look at porn. I’ve consistently dated males—socialists, feminists, men with younger sisters—who have never been to a strip club and have ZERO interest in masturbating to eroticized images of financial coercion. They are great in the sack. I am great in the sack. And, WE all know that nothing beats the real thing, and nothing beats a TRULY consensual sexual experience. I am deleting your app.
N.H.
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Methinks N.H. has also consistently dated liars, LOL.
So then what do NH’s theoretical non-porn watching men-dating type people masturbate to?
Maybe they’re narcissists and all they need is a mirror.
If anyone wants to know what denial looks like ^^^^^^^^^^^^^
The easiest way to get into the pants of someone who is anti-porn is to listen for 5 minutes then repeat their talking points right back at them.
@Jinx – that coincidentally is also the instructions on how to be a complete asshole-pretending not to consume porn so you can fuck women who don’t understand the sexual attraction to images. Lying is stupid, and if you actually want to continue to get in their pants, it can only lead to a future painful realization (what you like pictures of naked women!) and/or expensive divorce proceedings. Lies cause women to believe in impossible expectations.
@pink dea – I’m not saying that it’s a good thing. I’m saying that it’s easy to lie and honestly it’s easy to continue the lie long enough for you to get tired of fucking that person and then break up with her for other seemingly unrelated reasons so she gets the impression that she really did date someone who thought like she did.
I think we can all agree that lying is going to lead to bad things in a long term relationship and fucks with peoples minds. Both genders not just women have fucked up expectations sometimes.
@Jinx – Yep I do agree that relationship expectations are all out of whack for everyone involved. It is sad that unreasonable societal expectations cause both men and women to tell little and big untruths about themselves in order to make it seem that sexual needs are completely identical. I was glad when a nice guy finally admitted without previous lying, “yes I look at porn and I’m not a sexist monster.”