Dan Savage

A few weeks back I invited readers to share their most horrifying true stories of desperate and/or depressing holiday sex. As promised, the author of the best horrifying true story of holiday sex–as determined by me and me alone–wins a $75 Toys in Babeland gift certificate. See if you can spot the winner before you […]

I am a 22-year-old virgin going to college in Texas. I have never had a girlfriend (I’m from a stupid foreign culture, my mom doesn’t allow dating, etc.), and will wind up in an arranged marriage in two years. What point is there for me to get in a relationship when I’m destined for an […]

[Savage is on vacation this week. Here is “Classic Savage Love,” a column that originally ran in June of 1957, the year he won his first Pulitzer Prize–Eds.] I’m a man in my mid-30s, and I just started dating after the end of a five-year relationship. The last three dates I’ve had have been with […]

A coworker and I share a huge amount of sexual energy. The primary issue is that he’s 17 and I’m closer to 30. My attraction to him is likely related to a (mild) distrust of men, an issue I’m working through with a therapist. I’m not interested in a relationship, and I’m sure that, at […]

I wanted to respond to the advice you gave to Tried Not to Fall, the closeted gay guy who was in love with his straight roommate. You advised TNTF to tell his straight roommate how he felt.I am in the straight roommate’s shoes, Dan. I believe my roommate is gay and, judging by the many […]

I’m a successful guy with a beautiful wife who is a successful executive herself. About two years ago I had a seriously stupid affair with an attractive woman at my firm. It lasted six weeks, and then my wife busted us. She did the usual and threw my sorry ass out of the house; I […]

I need your advice. My parents are bugging me to come home for Thanksgiving. The thing is, as a kid I always hated holidays. No, I loved holidays–what I hated was my parents. Growing up, I was ignored on holidays except when my mom would order me to wait on my brothers and dad. As […]

I’m in college and I live with my best friend. He and I tell each other almost everything except he doesn’t know that I’m bi. What complicates things further is that I am completely in love with him. He’s straight and oblivious. Everyone says that you can’t “convert” someone but I’m wondering if he has […]

Tell you what, Dan. IF YOU DO YOUR JOB AND ANSWER SOME FUCKING QUESTIONS, all of your readers promise to run out and buy your book and make it a bestseller. But if you keep BORING us with the details of your BORING book tour, NONE of us will buy your book! No more BULLSHIT […]

You probably get lots of e-mails from hopefuls wanting to become advice columnists, but I thought I would ask anyway: How does one become a successful advice columnist? I believe that I have something to offer. I give advice to friends and family, and I’m sure that there are many other people out there who […]