Dan Savage

yuck My boyfriend doesn’t like snowballing, which I’m fine with. However, he won’t even kiss me after oral sex, even if I’ve already swallowed. I feel like he sees me as dirty or nasty when he refuses to kiss me after oral sex. He says he wouldn’t ask me to do something I didn’t want […]

Dumb Kids I’m a gay high school sophomore, and I’ve had no luck finding other guys. I turned to the Internet and met a really nice guy who wants to help me live out my dreams of being another dude’s sex slave. He offered to pick me up after school and take me to his […]

Water World I’m hoping you can help me. My boyfriend wants nothing more than to have me pee on him. I really want to do this for him, but my body will not cooperate. I’m usually able to pee whether I feel the need to go or not–when the doctor needs a sample, for instance–so […]

The 15-Year Itch I am a 15-year-old kid who lacks self-esteem, self-confidence, and just plain good looks. I’ve spent my entire life without a kiss from a girl, and even spent a year thinking I was in love with my sister. My right hand is in extreme pain from the amount of whacking I do, […]

Homeland Insecurities Like many 40-year-old guys, I’m attracted to the girl at my morning coffee place. She’s a biker, pierced, tattooed, dark-haired, beautiful, and intelligent. However I am pretty sure she likes girls. She’s always nice, but maybe just because I am a customer? I spend way too much time thinking about exploding my rocket […]

Beatin’ and Cheatin’ I am a straight male in an exclusive relationship. My girlfriend and I have been together for two years, and her need for sex has dwindled. Any attempt to discuss this leads to tears and blame, e.g., “I am not into sex because you” or, “Everything would be fine if only you […]

Nice Ladies I am a straight male who just got back from Carnival in Rio. I went with a few friends from work. We had a blast. Actually, it may have been too much fun. One night I drank too much and ended up getting into a conversation with one of the most beautiful girls […]

I am a 28-year-old straight female with a great boyfriend. I want to share all my fucked-up fantasies with him–and I have, so far, except for one. I have these bizarre fantasies about him overindulging in really bad food and gaining weight. I am not a chubby chaser–if he got fat I would not be […]

Hit Me I’m a chick with a desire to be punched. I want a black eye, you see. My boyfriend won’t do it because he has this hang-up about “beating” his girlfriend. But he did give me permission to ask my best male friend if he would punch me. My friend said yes, if I […]

Sluts and Isholes When you warn against being a huge fucking slut, I know that I agree, but I don’t know if I’m being a huge fucking slut. I’ve had anal sex (with protection!) on the first date, and I’ve had sex with guys without quite remembering their names. But my lifetime sex-partner count is […]

No Excuses Your recent column about gay “bug chasers” was BOOOORING. No one cares if gay guys want to infect themselves with AIDS! While you may be gay, most of your readers are NOT. Write about STRAIGHT problems! Don’t spend so much time writing about BOOOORING gay shit! Ta Ha & Straight Edge Boy You […]

Conduct Unbecoming I have sex toys that I’ve only used once or twice. I can’t return them, but I can’t bring myself to throw them away. Is there a secondhand market? Waste Not, Want Orgasm “Sadly, there is no official sex toy exchange,” said Dr. Carol Queen, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations in San Francisco. […]