Dan Savage

Degenerates and Roger Nance I am an 18-year-old female dating a 19-year-old male and we are both virgins. He used to be fat, and I was just a virgin whore who never “went all the way.” We both ended up going to a behavior modification program (which is where we met) for two years. We […]

“Santorum” in a Sentence I am new to anal sex and enjoy it, despite the embarrassment of occasional santorum. But I’ve wondered about this for a while: Is the person receiving supposed to have an enema first? I’ve heard about people “cleaning themselves out” and I assume that’s because they don’t want to make any […]

Dan Stands I recently went on a business trip cross-country. While there, I spent a good deal of time with a female friend I’ve known for over eight years. In all that time, I’ve loved this woman. I’ve had girlfriends in that time, but no one very serious for very long. She’s always had a […]

Once Bitten I got married young (I’m 22 now). Within six months of the wedding, my wife put on 50 pounds, stopped wearing makeup, and decided that she would no longer engage in any sex act besides vaginal, missionary intercourse. She will accept oral sex, but refuses to return the favor. When we were dating, […]

The Santorum I find applying stinging nettles to my body highly pleasurable. I’ve tried the web for more information but either get herbalist pages or, when searching the words “nettles” and “fetish” together, get directed to SM-type pages. I don’t really go for that. Can you direct me somewhere where I can get advice? Are […]

Yesh and No We’re sick and tired of hearing about your sick fascination with Ashton Kutcher. Whatever happened to breast-milk cheese, ejaculating into women’s shoes, or screwing your sister? Hot Old Twosome Bored of Dan My thing for Ashton is sweet and wholesome–and it’s annoying the shit out of my boyfriend, so I will drop […]

Do the Santorum It feels like a million years ago that Senator Rick Santorum (R-Pennsylvania) told a reporter that he hoped the United States Supreme Court would uphold anti-gay sodomy laws and compared consensual gay sex to incest, bigamy, adultery, and “man-on-dog” sex. There was a mini uproar, of course, with gay groups calling for […]

Sex and Drugs I am a female college sophomore whose boyfriend is currently studying abroad in Europe. I’ve been thinking about ending the relationship since I’m sick of the long-distance thing. Here’s the problem: I recently heard that at the beginning of last semester, which was before we started dating, he date-raped two girls. The […]

Being a big fan of your book Skipping Towards Gomorrah, you can no doubt imagine how delighted I was to read all about William J. Bennett’s gambling “problem.” America’s number one moral crusader lost millions of dollars in Las Vegas casinos. I realize that it’s not cool to laugh at the misfortunes of others but […]

Family Ties I am a 19-year-old guy with a problem. When I was 15, I was a lonely virgin who had never even kissed a girl. My sister, who is a year younger than me, had never had a boyfriend. One day we started talking about this, and we decided to practice kissing on each […]

The Fag-a-thon Two weeks ago, I responded to a letter from Fifteen and Gay, a closeted gay high-school sophomore who longed to be “another dude’s sex slave.” FAG met a 38-year-old “really nice guy” on the Internet who offered to pick him up from school, take him back to his house, and make FAG his […]