Dan Savage

The Santorum I find applying stinging nettles to my body highly pleasurable. I’ve tried the web for more information but either get herbalist pages or, when searching the words “nettles” and “fetish” together, get directed to SM-type pages. I don’t really go for that. Can you direct me somewhere where I can get advice? Are […]

Yesh and No We’re sick and tired of hearing about your sick fascination with Ashton Kutcher. Whatever happened to breast-milk cheese, ejaculating into women’s shoes, or screwing your sister? Hot Old Twosome Bored of Dan My thing for Ashton is sweet and wholesome–and it’s annoying the shit out of my boyfriend, so I will drop […]

Do the Santorum It feels like a million years ago that Senator Rick Santorum (R-Pennsylvania) told a reporter that he hoped the United States Supreme Court would uphold anti-gay sodomy laws and compared consensual gay sex to incest, bigamy, adultery, and “man-on-dog” sex. There was a mini uproar, of course, with gay groups calling for […]

Sex and Drugs I am a female college sophomore whose boyfriend is currently studying abroad in Europe. I’ve been thinking about ending the relationship since I’m sick of the long-distance thing. Here’s the problem: I recently heard that at the beginning of last semester, which was before we started dating, he date-raped two girls. The […]

Being a big fan of your book Skipping Towards Gomorrah, you can no doubt imagine how delighted I was to read all about William J. Bennett’s gambling “problem.” America’s number one moral crusader lost millions of dollars in Las Vegas casinos. I realize that it’s not cool to laugh at the misfortunes of others but […]

Family Ties I am a 19-year-old guy with a problem. When I was 15, I was a lonely virgin who had never even kissed a girl. My sister, who is a year younger than me, had never had a boyfriend. One day we started talking about this, and we decided to practice kissing on each […]

The Fag-a-thon Two weeks ago, I responded to a letter from Fifteen and Gay, a closeted gay high-school sophomore who longed to be “another dude’s sex slave.” FAG met a 38-year-old “really nice guy” on the Internet who offered to pick him up from school, take him back to his house, and make FAG his […]

yuck My boyfriend doesn’t like snowballing, which I’m fine with. However, he won’t even kiss me after oral sex, even if I’ve already swallowed. I feel like he sees me as dirty or nasty when he refuses to kiss me after oral sex. He says he wouldn’t ask me to do something I didn’t want […]

Dumb Kids I’m a gay high school sophomore, and I’ve had no luck finding other guys. I turned to the Internet and met a really nice guy who wants to help me live out my dreams of being another dude’s sex slave. He offered to pick me up after school and take me to his […]

Water World I’m hoping you can help me. My boyfriend wants nothing more than to have me pee on him. I really want to do this for him, but my body will not cooperate. I’m usually able to pee whether I feel the need to go or not–when the doctor needs a sample, for instance–so […]

The 15-Year Itch I am a 15-year-old kid who lacks self-esteem, self-confidence, and just plain good looks. I’ve spent my entire life without a kiss from a girl, and even spent a year thinking I was in love with my sister. My right hand is in extreme pain from the amount of whacking I do, […]

Homeland Insecurities Like many 40-year-old guys, I’m attracted to the girl at my morning coffee place. She’s a biker, pierced, tattooed, dark-haired, beautiful, and intelligent. However I am pretty sure she likes girls. She’s always nice, but maybe just because I am a customer? I spend way too much time thinking about exploding my rocket […]