Dan Savage

My BF and I went to the gay pride celebrations in New York City last weekend. Toward the end of the pier dance, a lot of people were turning the event into a “grope-a-nanza,” which was made easy by the jam-packed conditions. I was standing behind my BF and he was pressed tight against the […]

I’m the creative type: I write, I draw, I compose. Mostly, though, I cartoon. And, oh yes, I’m a fetishist–nothing illegal, but still unusual. (Look up “maeiusophilia,” if you must know.) I do a lot of erotic (by my standards) artwork, and it’s a shame to keep these drawings to myself. All fetishes now have […]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. He has been a programmer for as long as I have known him, which has meant dealing with him occasionally not sleeping for four days straight, him being on call for work 24 hours a day, and programming breakthroughs coming to him during intimate moments. […]

Why don’t you take advantage of e-mail technology? Instead of publishing a single response to a letter you received (probably via e-mail!), why don’t you send a response directly to the person with the problem? Then wait for the advice-seeker to respond, and publish the whole back-and-forth for your readers. That way we wouldn’t be […]

I’m stuck in a mentally and sometimes physically abusive relationship with a total cunt. She’s whaled on me before in drunken rages, but I’ve never hit her back because I just can’t hit a chick. She’s only a cunt when she’s drunk, and that’s only some of the time. The rest of the time she’s […]

HELLO, PORTLAND. I know, I know. It’s been a couple of years since you’ve heard from me, and I’m sorry. But you remember how it used to be, don’t you, Portland? My sex-advice column used to run in a paper called PDXS. Man, we had some times then. You would ask me questions about your […]

I read your recent column about a man having trouble incorporating BDSM into his marriage. I’m in a similar situation. In it, you wrote that men are more likely to be kinky than women. But I’m a woman, and I’m kinkier than my husband. I was a virgin until I was 22, never had any […]