Dan Savage

HEY, EVERYBODY: A few months back, I departed from the usual advice-column Q&A, and, taking full advantage of e-mail technology, experimented with a new, genre-busting format: Question & Response & Response. The experiment was a success, and many of you wrote in to suggest that I switch Savage Love over to Q&R&R for good. I […]

I am a 35-year-old, Asian, straight man. My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for over a year, and recently I told her that I watch porn videos with my younger brother. She is okay with the fact that I watch porn, but thinks it’s strange that I watch it with my brother. […]

I am a 21-year-old male, straight, and a virgin. I’ve been waiting to find the right woman, and she’s obviously somewhat reclusive. I have been propositioned by quite a few homosexuals, and while I’ve never been attracted to men, I do find the attention flattering. Anyhow, I’m starting to think that maybe I am gay […]

I’m a girl who wants to wake up my guy with a blowjob. But I am hesitant because I was molested in my sleep a few years ago by someone I was not involved with or interested in, and it really disturbed me. I don’t want to deny my guy a wake-up blowjob he might […]

I have a health question that I am uncomfortable discussing with my family doctor. I am gay, 22 years old, and have only been sexually active for about two years. Whenever I have an orgasm, my semen is a creamy, off-yellow color. Guys I’ve been with thus far all seem to shoot milky white; in […]

Why am I voting for Ralph Nader? It’s the issues, man! Nader stands for several things that neither Bush nor Gore stand for: • A real commitment to campaign finance reform • Ending the drug war • Ending the death penalty • The right to choose • Ending the rule of corporations in our culture […]

I’m male, primarily hetero, and my wife and I are in our early 40s. We’ve been married for six years, have two great kids, a nice house, and life is good, except for a couple of decades I’ve wanted to have a threesome with two women. (In college I did several guy-guy-girl three-ways, and it […]

I am really confused about this guy I like. I had a bunch of people over one night and he came. We were lying on my bed, his arms wrapped around me, just talking. He really wanted me to give him oral sex. I really wanted to, but my door doesn’t lock and my mom […]

My girlfriend and I have been living together for two years now, and it seems as though lesbian bed death is setting in. Pretending everything is fine isn’t working. Being romantic, going out to dinner, and wooing her isn’t working. Being frustrated and bringing this up as an issue ends with her asking, essentially, “Isn’t […]

HEY, EVERYBODY: I’m on a little vacation, so this week I’m running a “greatest hit” from the Savage Love archives. I’m not sexually experienced, but I am totally in love with my new man and I want to drive him wild with desire. I want to blindfold him and tie his hands, maybe even handcuff […]

Welcome to the fourth and final part of Savage Love’s very special How Sleaze Is Lived in America series: Sleazy Anonymous Gay Meetings. This week we hear from gay men who met their true loves in bathhouses, in porn store video booths, at jerk-off parties, and in toilets at late, great Penn Station. But before […]

Welcome to Part Three of Savage Love’s soon-to-be-award-winning series, How Sleaze Is Lived in America. (I would like to thank the Pulitzer Prize committee in advance for their consideration.) In this week’s installment, Kinked-Out Sleazy Meetings, we’ll hear from kinky people who met their kinky true loves doing, uh, kinky things. As any normal person […]