Dan Savage

I’m a 21-year-old college guy. I used to be chubby, and then, about a year ago, I hit the gym. Then I started having my sister dress me, because I have no fashion sense. When the weight came off and muscles came on, women really started to notice me. Suddenly women couldn’t keep their hands […]

When I am soft, my cock is tiny. Yet when I am hard, it is long and thick. I have asked girlfriends about this and none has ever seen such a change. In your vast experience with male organs, what can you tell me about growth? –Wee-Willie Winkie/Pink Giant Putting aside my vast experience with […]

We are a male/female bisexual couple facing an ethical dilemma. We’ve been together 10 years. He’s a gorgeous, well-built man with a strong sex drive. I’m a beautiful woman with a normal sex drive. I have also been HIV-positive for 12 years. He’s negative. We would really like to explore his bisexuality together and have […]

Thank you for printing a column on cunnilingus. Your straight female readers appreciate it! And while I understand your distaste at having to read so many e-mails about the practice, I feel compelled to respond. After printing lots of contradictory advice from women about cunnilingus, you told straight men simply to ask the women they’re […]

My boyfriend of one year phoned me to tell me he almost cheated on me. An old girlfriend invited him back to her house. The only reason he didn’t, he said, was because he had too much homework (we are both university students), NOT because he loved me too much to do such a thing. […]

A couple of months ago you invited women to send in cunnilingus tips for straight guys. Didn’t any women send in tips? Straight Guy Anxious for Pointers I got 500 letters from straight women with advice for men on the whole pussy-eating subject. Why haven’t these letters appeared in this column? Well, I have a […]

I tried to ask this question of Van, the porn star who sells his dirty underwear via his website, www.vanhotman.com. I wrote to him via his website and asked him to call me, but I never heard back. Perhaps you could have him contact me? You see, I’m a 40-year-old gay man living in Manhattan […]

I have been seeing a guy for about four months who recently moved to my city from out-of-state. A contributing factor in his move (although not a major factor) was that he wanted to get on with his life following the breakup of a long-term relationship. He keeps saying that he does not want a […]

Your response to Sick and Tired of Being Used, who complained about women who accept his “friendly back rubs” but aren’t interested in sex, was not, in my opinion, the best possible answer. Mind if I give it a shot?Dear SATOBU: What is your problem? You CLAIM to enjoy giving a half-naked girl a massage, […]

I’ve been having the best time sending sleazy e-mails to a man I met through the personals. He lives three time zones away. He recently requested that I send him a pair of my well-worn panties. I said no, because I couldn’t stand the thought of him sniffing my dirty, crusty, skanky underwear. Well, I’m […]

Recently, one of my friends was giving a girl a friendly back rub when she took off her top and bra, and let him continue. Then she informed him that she didn’t want to have sex with him. He told her he was going to go hang out with the guys. When he told us […]

Whenever I am with someone new and we are in bed, all the twisting and fooling around creates all this gas in my stomach. Yet, being a gentleman, I have to hold it in–and the pressure keeps building and building. If I try to do controlled releases, it just comes out even noisier. And with […]