Dan Savage

At the end of last week’s column, you asked what we should call it when a woman fucks a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo. We should call it “a woman fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo.” Does every sexual practice need a cute term? I’m sick of not […]

For crying out loud! What the fuck is wrong with people?! What the fuck is going on when someone wants noxious gas sprayed in their face for sexual pleasure? For the love of god, what the fuck is going on when a man wants to consume feces? I know you get the weird stuff all […]

The thought of fathering a bunch of kids who I don’t know and never meet actually turns me on. Is that weird or what? Are there any restrictions against gay guys donating to sperm banks? Are there sperm banks that specialize in hooking up gay spunk with lesbians? How do I go about this? –Who’s […]

I’m a 27-year-old Jamaican man. I have lived in New York half my life but still have a slight accent. For some reason this seems to drive women and men alike wild! Yesterday a guy followed me for five blocks after he heard my voice. I’m a good-looking guy, but for some reason I’m attracting […]

Your column used to be filled with disgusting letters from sickos. Now it’s real people with real problems. Bring back the perverts! –Disappointed in You Two weeks ago I promised to get back to the freak show, and last week I thoughtlessly filled my column with real people experiencing real problems. Sorry about that, DIY, […]

I’m a 30-year-old straight male. I am successful and reasonably good-looking. Anyway, here’s the deal: There is a woman about my age whom I find mentally stimulating, but only moderately physically attractive. I’ve found through experience that single, independent women who’ve made it to their 30s alone are the type of women I respect and […]

After reading all the responses to your “why is being a dyke so easily shrugged off” query, I have to say, who cares? There’s no way this question can ever be answered to everyone’s satisfaction, so why bother? I don’t read your column for abstract conversations about sexual identity. No, I read your column for […]

In a recent column you mentioned that three lesbian friends had run off with men. “One is married to a man,” you wrote, “one is living with a man, and the third is a man.” You observed that none of your gay male friends had run off with women, and asked, “What is it about […]

I am a 30-year-old male, married to a woman for five years. Our sex life is average, with sessions typically including a little oral and mutual fondling, followed by missionary-position intercourse. My wife has requested a spanking from time to time, which I have reluctantly given her. Recently on our shared credit card bill I […]

This question concerns both sex and etiquette: How much privacy can one reasonably expect while engaging in consensual sex in a sex club? While visiting one of those open-to-the-public establishments that cater to men who want to get off with other men, I saw an uptight but openly gay prig who is a member of […]

I need your help. On Saturday, February 17, I went out dancing with some friends from work. We ended up at Electra (in Cincinnati), where I wound up dancing with this really attractive Asian woman. We danced all night and built up a really magical rapport. Her ride was pressuring her to leave, so in […]

Let’s say that someone (for the sake of argument, me) had been engaging in sex with a set of identical male twins. And let’s say I suddenly found myself quite unexpectedly pregnant. If I decided to have the baby, would there be any way to tell which of the twins was the father? –Twin Lover […]