Dan Savage

I really put my foot in it this time. Two weeks ago, I responded to a letter from a woman who signed herself Doggie Comes First. Well! Never in the 48 years that I’ve been giving advice professionally has one column generated so much bitter, angry mail! And while God knows I’ve made my fair […]

You recently called a person who wants to wait to have sex “some sort of saving-yourself-for-something-or-other sociopath.” Come on, Dan. Do you really think saving yourself for the right person is stupid? I’m a 25-year-old hetero male who made the choice to wait until I got married. Sound stupid? I don’t think so. Do you […]

I have a BIG problem. The woman I love is 26 and I’m 28. We’ve been together for about four years, and in that time she’s gotten really fat. I tried to approach her about her weight in a gentle way (women and weight is a bad chat to have), and she cried and said […]

One night last year I walked into my dorm room to go to bed, interrupting my roommate while he was having sex with his girlfriend. The room was pitch black, so they would have noticed me entering the room thanks to the light spilling in from the hall. However, I reasoned, if I simply flopped […]

This girl I’m seeing is a stripper and an escort. I’m fine with the stripping, but the idea of her alone in hotel rooms with old horny men bothers me. I’m fairly naive about the escort scene, and lately this woman who used to be a stripper has been filling my head with all sorts […]

My husband and I recently let our best man borrow our New York apartment while we went away for the weekend. On Monday morning, my husband turned on our computer. Turns out our friend had been surfing hardcore porn sites all weekend. Our home page had been changed. Many of the links that he left […]

I recently started dating a girl who has a strange fetish. The first time we slept together, she wanted to wear a Catholic schoolgirl outfit. The schoolgirl fantasy turned me on, although I thought it was a bit odd to go that far our first time together. Now she’s taking things even further, going places […]

Your advice to MSL, the gay guy who wanted to suck off his straight roommate, was logical, but I must, as a heterosexual male, object. If MSL wants to freak his roommate out, then, by all means, he should follow your advice and “jokingly” offer to suck him off. But you forgot to take the […]

The votes are in,they’ve been counted, recounted, and actually, I’m going to resist making the stock Florida/hanging-chad/Republican-coup jokes. After all, this is serious business: What term, from this day forward, will be the commonly accepted slang for a woman fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo? Three candidates stood in this election: […]

You’ve often come to the aid of many a sick, demented fetishist, which has inspired me, a 23-year-old overweight, brown-skinned dude who has never gotten laid, or for that matter even achieved the least intimacy with a lady, sexy or otherwise, to beg your help in locating some kindly lady who might be willing, so […]

A couple of weeks ago I convinced my girlfriend to dress up in her old school uniform for sex. We started going out long after high school ended, so I never got a chance to do the deed with her in uniform. I get the feeling she didn’t enjoy herself as much as I did […]

If some straight guy went around bashing gays in print in the way you’ve been bashing poo-eaters, we’d all assume he was a closet case. So how about it, Dan: What’s your real motivation, huh? Expressing personal preference is one thing, but publishing letters just so you can point out how disgusted you are is […]