Dan Savage

I read your advice to 17-year-old HARD–telling him to avoid a threesome because his “gut” told him not to do it–with alarm. Maybe gay men are regularly given the chance to pick and choose amongst threesomes, but young HARD won’t be so lucky. Being a heterosexual male, I can speak from actual experience–and regret. I […]

I’m 22 years old and I am NOT ashamed of who I am. I’m just afraid. I know my parents love me, but on more than one occasion they have made their dislike for “fags” rather obvious. I’d hate to see their reaction if they were to discover that their only son is one. I […]

I am a Muslim whose family is very conservative. I am afraid of what might happen if a certain relative finds some pornographic home videos I made. It all started with an older woman I used to date. She thought it would be fun to make sexy videos with a computer webcam. I made several […]

After dating this woman for a couple of months, I began to suspect that she was a bed wetter. There was the occasional smell of urine in her bedroom and she was reluctant to spoon with me. After changing my sheets the other day I noticed an unwelcome stain on my bed. She was obviously […]

I’m in a crisis. I am dating a man who is kind, considerate, and mature, and sexy to boot. The only problem is that he’s had a vasectomy, and I want kids–I want kids real bad. He says he would consider reversing his little nip and tuck, but it’s not as if he’s made any […]

Over the last few years, my father has spent countless hours holed up in his study on the computer. Because he’s such a boring person, it was a big family joke that he was probably looking at porn. It wasn’t until a recent family vacation when my sister borrowed our dad’s laptop that we learned […]

With the assistance of a wickedly unsqueamish lover, I have managed to excrete from my obliging body almost all of the fluids I can produce, i.e., bloodsweatspitcumpiss. But, alas, we lack one precious secretion: breast milk. As I am unwilling to undergo the nine-month infestation that traditionally prompts the production of breast milk, I implore […]

Your response to New York City Girl was INSENSITIVE. There is no longer any question that you are a MAN! I was raped (with a dildo) by a female lover. I was hurt and angry, but I gave in and forgave her. Needless to say, the abuse continued throughout our time together. While NYCG wasn’t […]

I’ll be blunt. I dig being smacked in bed. My boyfriend is willing to do this, but seems to think twice a month is enough. When he does smack me, he only does it until I’m horny enough to let him proceed with the after-hitting festivities. He’s just not hitting me long enough or hard […]

I thought maybe an outsider could give me some insight into my heartache. I dated this guy–call him Ron–for seven months. We were deeply in love, but broke up. Almost a year later we tried to be friends. We hung out a couple of times but he kissed me, and there was a lot of […]

After watching a few episodes of Mind of the Married Man on HBO, I thought I would go out and try to get a massage with a “happy ending.” I looked through the Yellow Pages and classified ads and found a massage “spa” in a neighboring town. Heart full of hope, I went to the […]

I am a 25-year-old, bisexual female grad student in NYC. This summer I had sex with a man for the first time. It was casual sex, but we were together for a few days. I was spending the summer in California, and met him there; he now lives in Philadelphia. Today I called him up […]