Dan Savage

I’m a straight malewho wants to suck some cock. I don’t want anything else, just to suck someone else’s dick. I want this to be very discreet, and absolutely safe. I don’t want anyone to know I did this, and I also don’t want any diseases. Any suggestions? Wanna Be Cock Sucker Like all straight […]

On more than one occasion I’ve been grabbed by the hair and pulled up for a big post-cunnilingus kiss, but my face is dripping wet and I feel uncomfortable just laying a sloppy one on the girl without first wiping my face off on the sheet. Nothing was said by the girls, but I felt […]

I just read your response to Disabled Dilemma, the man who was trying to find a girlfriend for his disabled friend. You told DD that his disabled friend should “reconcile himself to being alone.” I’m not sure how to react. Part of me wants to call you a cold, mean-spirited fuck. The other part of […]

I’m a big fat liar! I’m 24 years old and still a virgin. Only my high-school friends know this. I’ve lied to all my college friends and everyone thereafter. I’m a decent-looking guy, just never got laid, not even a blowjob–hell, I have practically no sexual experience. I have some really good friends now and […]

I am an 18-year-old lesbian. My girlfriend of two years is 17. We have not had sex, however, which by my definition is making each other come by whatever means. She is willing to touch me, but she prefers that I not touch her. She was assaulted when she was 15, and the guy turned […]

Aaaaargh! Do you really want to go prancing around Las Vegas with the kind of loser that could win your impossible plagiarism contest? I went online to figure out who you plagiarized, thinking it would only take a day or two to track down the authors of the responses in your plagiarized column. Twelve hours […]

As my most trusted source of sex advice, can you recommend a good sex shop? I’d prefer not to go to the weird-ass porno shops, as they’re frequented by scuzzy old men. As strange as it may sound, I need a “respectable” establishment, as I’ll be taking my Iowa girlfriend with me. I recall that […]

Hey, Everybody: After I stuck a sexual fantasy of my own into the column–Brad Pitt coming all over Ashton Kutcher’s face–a reader suggested that I devote an entire column to my readers’ sexual fantasies. Upping the ante, I decided to have a sexual-fantasy contest, with prizes going to readers whose sexual fantasies were selected for […]

I am a 29-year-old gay male, and I have a problem. There’s a guy at my office who is absolutely gorgeous, but I don’t know if he’s gay. I don’t have very much contact with him, because we are in different departments. He does gives off “gay” signals, though: He wears a pair of hoop […]

Hey, Everybody: I’m on vacation, and this column is a repeat–but a very, very special repeat. I recently told a woman who signed herself “Confused” that it was unreasonable for her not to give a few blowjobs to save her marriage. The mail has been pouring in ever since, from angry women (and their fathers), […]

Hi! I’m a straight guy, but I have a lot of stereotypically “gay” qualities, i.e., I’m sensitive and caring, and I like shopping, cooking, and Madonna. I developed a lot of these qualities because that’s what I thought women wanted in a man. But ever since I can remember I’ve always had problems attracting women. […]

I read your advice to 17-year-old HARD–telling him to avoid a threesome because his “gut” told him not to do it–with alarm. Maybe gay men are regularly given the chance to pick and choose amongst threesomes, but young HARD won’t be so lucky. Being a heterosexual male, I can speak from actual experience–and regret. I […]