Dan Savage

Last year I devoted an entire column to horrifying true stories of desperate and/or depressing holiday sex. This year, on the suggestion of a Savage Love reader, I’m devoting an entire column to my readers’ favorite, fondest, and most cherished (sex-related) holiday experiences. Enjoy. In the fall of 2001, I entered college as an 18-year-old […]

Bernd Brandes was recorded on video in 2001 eating his own penis. Brandes isn’t an auto-fellator, like others who’ve written in, but a man who wanted to be eaten by a cannibal. He found one on the Internet, and allowed this man to cut off his penis and fry it in a pan. Brandes’ penis […]

On an episode of The Sopranos, a hunk went to the bathroom, where he died, and the camera caught the actor sitting in a position with his pants and shorts down around his ankles. It made me so hot I whacked off immediately. Later, I taped the episode for that purpose. Also, I found a […]

I was listening to the radio today and Rick Santorum was mentioned. The first thought that popped into my head was, “Santorum ? That frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex?” and not, “Santorum ? That conservative prick?” Your column has worked the new meaning so far […]

I’m a woman in my early 20s and I love to insert a tampon in my rear end when I masturbate. It gets me off but I feel dirty. Is this normal? Do other people share this pleasure? Does it have a name? Confused About Tampons In selecting your letter for the column, CAT, it […]

A bar in Seattle serves sushi off a naked woman, some feminists find out, pitch a fit, and suddenly Seattle’s “Naked Sushi” is all over the papers. It even made the Drudge Report! You live in Seattle, Dan. Are your local feminist correct? Is “Naked Sushi” offensive? Or is it good, clean fun? Fish Food […]

My fiancée is having trouble going down on me. She can usually last five minutes before her jaw starts hurting. It’s big–what can I do? When we try, she has me lie down on my back while she kneels between my legs. Is there another position that might work better and not cause her jaw […]

I need help understanding a recently observed trend. As a physician, I see lots of naked bodies. For several years I’ve noticed that, generally speaking, many straight patients (men and women) in their 20s have trimmed and/or coifed pubic hair. A lot of the men tell me that their girlfriends prefer it that way; some […]

I am a gay, healthy, native dude from the Midwest attending a sleepy university. I’ve got a great group of friends and a pretty well-rounded social life. With school and all the organizations I belong to, you would think that I was swimming in a sea of eligible gay men to escort to the local […]

My husband to be is running for high political office in the “Bible belt.” He has a good chance of winning. I am aware that campaigns can become ugly and personal. Before I met my husband I dated women, posed for naked pictures, was into drugs, and even appeared in a Girls Gone Wild video. […]

You’re a dick. Your reply last week to “Confused in Ohio,” who was worried about her boy-porn-perusing boyfriend, is typical bi-phobia. I thought you had laid your bi-phobia to rest when you finally relented and acknowledged that yes, there are lots of bisexuals. But now you are back to your same old agenda, the agenda […]

I am in a relationship with a man who recently told me about something that he used to do before we met. He is flexible enough to give himself a blowjob, he said, and used to do this often to get himself off. I didn’t think it was possible for men to do this, but […]