Dan Savage

As an avid reader of your column, I thought of you and only you for help with this problem. My grandmother, 78 and widowed, is a kind, generous woman who has seen her share of difficult times. She is a bit offbeat, but extremely conservative and religious. After my grandfather passed on, she purchased a […]

I just finished reading the letter from Forced Air Ruined the Sheets and frankly I’m shocked! Not at FARTS’ disgusting problem–a fart “went between the lips of [her] vagina” after sex–but shocked at you, Dan. Haven’t you ever heard of a pussy fart, Mr. Savage? Queefs? After all the pumping and squeezing of sex (especially […]

I know you don’t want to hear this, Dan, but marriage is about babies. By supporting the baby industry–i.e., hetero baby producers–our government keeps the country populated. Gay people can’t reproduce, even if they can raise other hetero people’s kids (adoption) or use other people’s sperm (artificial insemination). But never–and I mean never–can two gay […]

Can you explain gay marriage? I lost a friend who is a lesbian for expressing my view that marriage is meaningless. It seems to me that the point of gay marriage is to win official recognition that homos aren’t second-class citizens, that it would amount to a state-sanctioned “Gays are okay!” message. I’ve got no […]

When I was young, I naively assumed that since male orgasm was accompanied by ejaculation, female orgasm must be too. When I finally asked a friend about “girl come,” I was corrected. So for years I ignored talk of female ejaculation, just as I ignore talk of Bigfoot sightings. But now I’ve found myself wondering […]

Your advice to Femme Teasing Mask, the woman with a female-latex-mask-wearing boyfriend, was bullshit. You told her to break up with him, “[but] don’t tell him the real reason you’re leaving: Let him think that it’s not the crossdressing and the latex masks, but his breath or his fashion sense…. Leave him, just leave him […]

My boyfriend of four years enjoys wearing women’s clothing and acting like a submissive woman when we have sex. Nothing gets him off more. We have only just started exploring his fetish in the past year because he has been ashamed of it all his life. I have encouraged him so far and now we […]

I’m an 18-year-old senior in high school. I met a girl at a party one night and we ended up going out for about a month. During that time we never went further than me fingering her, because she didn’t want to. We had both had sex before, she with her boyfriend of eight months […]

Just out of curiosity, are you married yourself? Because if you are not, where do you get off telling married people how married sex should/could be? Amy K. Maybe you missed the reference to my boyfriend and the Finnish men’s swim team in last week’s column, Amy K., but I’m a huge homo. Which means, […]

I am a massage girl–wink, wink–who provides men with happy endings. I enjoy porn–especially guy-on-guy porn–and I like to think of myself as very open. I am also happily married. Until recently. My husband is 36, handsome, 6’2″, well endowed, works out daily, and has an awesome body. For 14 years our sex life was […]

I have been with my husband for 4.5 years. I am currently very frustrated. My husband cannot maintain an erection while performing oral sex on me. He manually stimulates himself while giving me oral sex. I feel rejected, because shouldn’t the act of giving pleasure to someone you love and find attractive be pleasurable for […]

Asked to share their favorite, fondest, and most cherished (sex-related) holiday experiences, my readers sent in so many uplifting, deeply moving, Chicken-Soup-for-the-Pervert’s-Soul stories that I couldn’t possibly fit them all into one column. Last week’s column was devoted to Christmas and Hanukkah stories; this week I’m giving over the column to my readers’ favorite, fondest, […]