Sex

I’m a 29-year-old straight woman, I’m faced with a dilemma, and I’d love your take on the situation. A guy wants to get back together with me, but… well, I should first give some backstory. I dated this guy about a year ago, and in many ways he was exactly the guy I was looking […]

Ever since I was young, I’ve masturbated differently than everyone else. I don’t play with myself with my hand. Instead what I do is I lie on the floor and hump the floor and the pressure between my leg and the floor usually feels good and that makes me cum. I’ve done this ever since […]

Hey Dan. My girlfriend listens to you and sorry I hadn’t heard of you until her. But I have a problem and I want to tell her but don’t know how so I thought of you. Her butt smells often like butt sweat and shit and it’s a major turn off like when she sits […]

Hi Dan Savage. I am 78. Wife passed on sex for last 15-18 years. It is driving me crazy. I don’t want a divorce but I would really like some sexual companionship. How might I go about it? Suggetions? Distressed Elder Seeking Direction Everyone out there reading this—everyone besides, it seems, the person who sent […]

My S.O. and I recently started a polyamorous relationship with another couple, who have been our friends for some time. We see each other pretty regularly for non-sex encounters and sometimes we get together to just hang out. For the first time we were hanging out and I just wasn’t feeling it. I attempted to […]

How do I become known as “openly gay” to my employer’s management? I am a 33-year-old gay man. I do not, nor do I want to, talk about my personal life at work. Even if I did I am not now and haven’t been in a serious, long-term relationship for many years. So, I have […]

Hi, Dan, 26-year-old woman from Australia here. I am flying to Italy on Saturday for a three week visit with my 29-year-old boyfriend while he is studying there for three months. Problem is, I want to break up with him. What’s the right way to do it? Before I leave? While I am there? When […]

I’ve been in a two-year relationship with a guy who was my first serious partner and my first sexual experience. It was all great with little ups and downs—until seven months ago when I discovered he was cheating. I came to his house and there was a girl living with him. She said he was […]

I’m a poz guy in his 50’s. I live in a city in the middle of America and lost my partner almost nine years ago. I’ve been taking care of an elderly parent and haven’t made time to have a sex life until about six months ago. I joined Adam4Adam and ran into an acquaintance […]

I’m a 37-year-old man, who has been in a monogamous relationship with the same woman for six years. Shortly after moving in with me in the house I own, she quit her job. She’s been unemployed for five years now. We’ve had sex once in the last three years. Even though I care about her […]