without him interjecting his own opinion ( usually utterly ignorant & made up on the spot just to counter me) & informing me how wrong I am. I do not want to be in my own house. I cringe whenever he rolls about of bed sometime after noon. And he never fucking leaves! Ever! In 6 months, I have not had the house to myself once.
To watch you go do the food shopping, for him, come home & cook his meal after doing 8 hours of hard labor, and then fucking SERVE HIM IN BED, makes me sick. He has complete control over your money ~ you are not allowed to buy yourself a beer after a hard days work. And when i buy you one? He demands half of it.
And so, not only do I not want to have to live with your toxic relationship ( and OH! having to hear him scream at you about how “disabled” he is when you ask him to at least look for work!!! Being a lazy mooch is his only “disability”, sister), but I am utterly done supporting him. I am done watching you be his slave. And I am done with his bizarre belief that he can come into another person’s home, pay nothing & take total control over it. He has taken every thing of mine that he decided he wanted ~ ALL of my compost, my pots, my incense, whatever he wants, without asking. There is something wrong with him. I have tried to reason with him, to work things out. I now give the fuck up & want him out. My dilemma is, I care for you very much & do not want to see you suffer & become homeless again because of him. I don’t know what to do!
Stop allowing these people to control you. Try telling her that she can stay but her boyfriend can’t and then call the cops if he shows up? Seems like a good place to start. If she chooses to follow him, that’s not on you Anon.
Easy. Stop being an enabler and evict his ass. You are not responsible for her choices. She is an adult. Tell here the things you said here face to face, and then evict him. Or, since it sounds like you are renting, have your landlord evict him. Although that may end up with you evicted as well. Did you tell your landlord how many people were living there? And another thing
how is it that you feel so responsible for someone that you have only known for six months? Have you sought psychological counseling for your issues? And how does your mother feel about this? Did she agree to
He didn’t take control, you gave it. He’s used to it, because others are giving it to him too.
I’d just like to remind you that we are charging you by the hour.
I’m thinking of a word. It starts with “en” and ends in “abler.”