Quit making “must love your mother” or “must call your mother at least once a week” a criteria to date you. My mother was a real piece of work and I haven’t spoken to her in 10 years. She was an abusive drunk that chose booze over her own children. Drunken parties, sleeping around (cheating on my dad), drugs, vomiting first thing in the morning and then cracking the first beer of the day shortly after… psychological and physical abuse… what a joyful childhood she gave us. Hell, we couldn’t even bring our friends over for fear of walking in to find her passed out on the couch. See, not all mothers are saints and I’m getting pretty fucking tired of everyone assuming that they are.
I also despise seeing that “Take time to be a dad” ad campaign all over… like all dads are assumed to be bums and all mothers are just perfect. Fuck that. Where is the “Take time to be a mom” campaign? Oh, that’s right; there’d be a fucking protest if that shit was promoted. HOW DARE YOU TELL MOTHERS TO BE THERE FOR THEIR CHILDREN!!!
So yeah, quit making “loving your mother” a criteria to date your simplistic ass… it’s just not a reality for some people.
Well, you could go out with *me* instead, but you must love Mother Love Bone.
Some people don’t want to get involved with someone with that kind of baggage. Not that it is your fault, but they don’t want to deal with it. Better to know that upfront. Compatibility and all that.
I, and many of the other commenters here, are all very sorry for boning your mom.
I feel sorry your mother was shit. She cheated on your dad. I guess your pretty clear about not talking to her in 10 years. If she physically abused you, you have every right to hate her. Before you have your own children, you know how to be a good parent right?
My parents had a drinking problem, and sent me to live with my grandparents. I do know how you feel, sort of. I guess your Dad was perfect in your eyes.
I hope someday your mom ask you to forgive her before she dies. My parents grew apart,but grew up and stopped drinking. They are forgiven and I love them. You need to stay strong, and not feel your situation is unique.
Do stay strong and become your own strong person.
I hate being so nice.
I anonymous, sounds like you had a bad childhood. As for people not understanding why you get sick of Love your Mom know matter what. Fuck those people. Life is too short to keep pretending your mom was a valentine. Remember alcoholics run in the family. I bet your mom was abused too. Ever think of that? Now mommy will probably die before you, so just don’t end up like her. You have probably had lots of shrink help, so apply what you learned and screw your mom. As you say, everyone else had. My mom the whore.
They’ll let anyone be a mom.