So me and my ex broke up last year and it was a dramatic one, U-haul locked and loaded he was helping me move that day, until we got into a fight about the guy I was also now seeing. A week prior we had talked about being in a open relationship because I felt my needs weren’t being met by just him. I had been talking with someone else for a couple months now before me and him had even met. I decided to finally meet up with this mysterious babe and we hit it off. I never being in a open relationship before was like it’s all about lots of communication so we all know and understand what’s going on… well yeah that was true, he was totally cool with me seeing other people until I did…. That’s when we had a big fight because apparently I slept with the other guy too soon he said. Here’s the deal guys I can’t date someone more dramatic than me, I’m a highly emotional person and if you are going to go to that same state of craziness that exceeds my craziness we just won’t work out. He was more dramatic than me I couldn’t even believe it, the whole thing felt like I was a movie break up scene. I’m chasing him down the street. I finally caught up with him in a triangle intersection and cars buzzing by and tears flying down my face and him screaming at me, I’ll never forget it. I was the one who in the end still had someone else to be with and now comfort me after my boyfriend broke up with me. Isn’t that ironic?
Open Relationship Experience #1
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I like that you can’t be with someone more dramatic than you. Does that translate as, “there’s only enough room for one big, self centered baby in this relationship and its me.”?
Also notice…you don’t have any friends who will listen to this shit in person and care, hence the IA. From your own description you sound like a walking time bomb of a relationship parasite. Please always use birth control, i’d hate for a child to have to depend on you.
Of course you failed to inform him you already had someone lined up when you brought up the idea of having an “open relationship”. BasicalIy, think open relationships are full of shit, mostly narcissistic borderline sociopaths, and I think we have a lot of them in Portland. “Hi i’m honest and caring and so loving and now i’m going to stick my cock in that other person, be here when I get back?”
I can see why the guy is upset. Personally, most of the appeal of relationships, dating, and moving in together are that you and your SO are the only ones for each other. It’s you two against the world, not “you two and Craig from the drugstore.”
He probably felt like you had a plan-B lined up in case things didn’t work out and that you weren’t even expecting them to be together for that long. Even worse, it turns out that he was completely right because you had someone lined up since before you two started talking. So yeah, you went from someone “dramatic” enough to cry because you hurt them to someone who creeps around couples waiting for his chance to get some.
I know that your boyfriend agreed to it at the start but I have to ask YOU what makes what you did any different from cheating? I can’t imagine you to be the faithful type. But hey, at least you’re having fun in bed, I guess.
Wow, you’re gonna go down in horrible flames as far as relationships go. Oh it’s coming.
“Open Relationship” is just another excuse/cover for douche bag yuppies to hide their own debauchery. The same way craft beer connoisseurs are nothing more than Yuppie drunks.
Open relationships require trust and consent AND communication. You broke his trust and did not get his consent, because you were already looking for someone and talking to other guys before you brought it up with your boyfriend. That’s not OK.