Men are more than twice as likely to continue dating a girlfriend who has cheated on them with another woman than one who has cheated with another man, according to new research from a University of Texas at Austin psychologist. Women show the opposite pattern. They are more likely to continue dating a man who has had a heterosexual affair than one who has had a homosexual affair…. “A robust jealousy mechanism is activated in men and women by different types of cues—those that threaten paternity in men and those that threaten abandonment in women,” says Jaime C. Confer, the study’s lead author and a doctoral candidate in evolutionary psychology.
By “men,” of course, UT researchers mean “straight men who are lucky enough to have bisexual girlfriends.” And by “women,” of course, UT researchers mean “straight women who are unlucky enough to have bisexual boyfriends.” (Please note: I wish more straight women regarded landing a bisexual boyfriend as a stroke of luck, and I encourage straight women to view a bisexual boyfriends as a great good fortune, and I encourage bisexual guys to be open about being bi and to present their bisexuality as a boon. But research—science!—tells us that most women feel otherwise. Which is too bad for straight women and the bisexual boys who date ’em and remain closeted because they feel they must.)
I’ve had women cut off contact when they found out my DAD was gay. As if, after 30+ years, I would wait until they came into my life to go running after the peen. IMHO, lots of women are pretty fearful of the gay.
At least you know your type: women who suck at giving excuses.
Biphobia is stronger against men that it is with women. Women who are bisexual are seen as being progressive or sexually adventurous. Men who are bisexual are seen as sleazy disgusting scumbags who are either 1.) actually gay and haven’t come to terms with it or 2.) desperate/promiscuous enough to sleep with anything.
I (female) have known for most of my life that I was bisexual. Same with my (male) partner. But he hates even calling himself bisexual for what it implies. I get pats on the back for being bisexual, he gets called a fag.
In conclusion, people are stupid. And afraid of sex.
I love my bi boyfriend!! Super-hot-sexy-ness 🙂
@CC – As far as “my type” is concerned, bisexual or bi-experienced women seem to work out the best. My upbringing gets more of an “Oh really?” than an “Oh. Really.”, and it seems to make what’s normally a traumatic part of the relationship an actual asset. It puts them at ease in discussing themselves, because they know I’m not going to be judgemental.