Dan Savage

I know this is a little late, but I want to complain about watching Brokeback Mountain in a theater full of gay people. My wife and I went to a screening in L.A. The place was packed. Not surprisingly, the vast majority of the other people there were gay men. They laughed throughout the whole […]

I’m a straight guy with conventional tastes in women. But a few years ago I accidentally ended up at a bar with drag queens. I found myself surprisingly turned on by this drag queen in a G-string that came over and shook her tits in my face. Ever since then I’ve had fantasies about male-to-female […]

I am a 17-year-old straight girl with a boy problem—and as such I am fairly sure it won’t be terribly interesting to read, but I figured it would be worth a try. I’ve known this boy for three years. A year ago, he asked me out but wanted me to keep the whole thing secret. […]

My 18-year-old sister met a creepy old man (COM) when he snuck into a dorm party at my sister’s college. He proposed to her on their first date. Our parents were immediately suspicious because of the large age difference—COM is older than they are. My sister also told COM that our family is well-off. This […]

I am a 26-year-old lesbian in a relationship with a 21-year-old. We’ve been together for five years. She is a brilliant student with a bright future. I love her but I feel that we need to part. I am worried about how she would get along financially without me. I make good money and while […]

I’m a 22-year-old gay male. I’m thin and “traditionally” good-looking enough to have done some modeling. So what’s the problem? I like bears. Big, hairy men with beards. I live in New York, and this city is full of cute, skinny, boyish guys, but there are some places to meet bears. The thing is, a […]

I am a 26-year-old female, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost five years. Our relationship is pretty good, for the most part, but I’m having a few reservations. I don’t really know how to broach this subject, because I feel like I’m just being a bratty little princess. But here it goes: I […]

Wiping blood from your hands and intestines from your jeans, you start to look around at the prehistoric paradise around you. In the distance, a brachiosaur calls. Off to your right, massive palm trees swing in the breeze. Suddenly, you slip in the gore underneath your feet. Landing hard on your back, you wince—something’s definitely […]

I’m a man in my early 30s and I have never been in a serious relationship. I started seeing a therapist to “get to the bottom” of my relationship problems and her opinion is that they may stem from an incident that happened years ago. I was raised by a single mom. When I was […]

I am a straight, monogamous man with normal sexual predilections. I don’t need to find someone to pee on me, paddle my butt, tell me about fucking other men, or anything else too weird. So why am I writing to you? First, I wanted to thank you for printing all the letters from the perverts. […]

I generally don’t agree with the advice you give, but I need help and I can’t talk to my friends. About two months ago I broke off a relationship with a guy I had been seeing for about seven years. I am only 24 years old and I needed to explore other fish in the […]

My girlfriend of three years is a smoker. In the beginning of our relationship her smoking didn’t bother me. I come from a family of smokers and I used to smoke. But now her smoking is a huge turn-off. I’ve also started a new job where I work with cancer patients and I see the […]