Dan Savage

I am a female university student who has a question of etiquette. There is a girl I’ve seen around campus who I recognize from a few years ago… when “Jane” was a guy. I am positive that it is the same person because she still has the same face and I’ve heard that this person […]

When did your sex advice column become a political column? That’s not why I read your column. Please get back to what you do best: fetish sex advice. Get back to peggers and piss drinkers. If I find anything about politics in your column next week, I am done with you. I want info and […]

I am sunk into a depression over the election results. I started out Anyone But Bush but actually came to LIKE John Kerry, which makes his defeat even harder. I feel like I am looking at four years of prison and share this country with a pack of baboons. Everywhere I look I see that […]

After much trial and error, it has become abundantly clear to me that I am a lesbian. My problem is that I am having a lot of trouble meeting women. I tried dating a friend of mine, but that turned out terribly. I am sick of meeting people in bars, seeing as how bars only […]

I have a serious problem. I am pregnant with a boy. At first my husband and I were in agreement that we would not circumcise him. I have read that the foreskin is comparable to a clit–all the nerves and stuff that make sex more pleasurable. But now my husband says he has changed his […]

I am an 18-year-old student. I have trust issues. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now and he’s very supportive. I am not a jealous person or a controlling head case because I have no problem with him going to bars/clubs with friends, going to parties when other girls are there, having […]

I’m a 35-year-old straight male and my sex drive is all but dead. I find sex tedious and repulsive. The odors of sex disgust me; I find the grunts and positions absurd. Lately, whenever I meet a woman I immediately size her up: Is her skin leathery? What about cellulite? Weight distribution? Stained teeth? Arm […]

I am a Middle Eastern guy who lived 21 years of my life in that region. This year I came to Canada. The sexual freedom in this country makes you feel more and more inclined to have sex with a girlfriend. Lately, I met this girl on an Internet chat. She said she has a […]

Dear Readers: The resident word freak at NPR’s The Next Big Thing–the lovely and talented Erin McKean–regularly challenges writers to use words that might otherwise disappear into obsolescence. In awe of my success at injecting santorum into the sexual lexicon, McKean invited little ol’ me on the program and asked me to revive three extinct […]

I broke up with a long-term girlfriend about two years ago. Last week, while totally drunk, I thought that it would be a great idea to see whether I could still log into her e-mail account, since we told each other our usernames and passwords way back when. (Yes, I know that I’m going straight […]

PLEASE HELP ME. My husband gets off on the voyeur thing. It started out with him watching me and masturbating while I was unaware of his presence. Soon I was wearing daisy dukes at the door (about to come myself!) and writing out a check for the pizza delivery guy while my husband hid. I’ve […]