Dan Savage

I’m a 24-year-old straight female. I just moved to a new city where I don’t know anyone. So the other night I hung out with a 21-year-old jock from work. We went to a bar and eventually wound up back at his apartment where we both smoked pot. I was thinking he was a muscle-bound […]

I am a thirtysomething, happily married woman except that I’ve never had satisfying, passionate sex with my husband. But I love him and am, for the most part, resigned. Here’s where it gets complicated. I survived cancer a few years back. I’m having symptoms again, but I haven’t told anyone. In a few months a […]

I have long enjoyed your advice, humor, and politics. But I never thought I would need your advice, being a well-adjusted hetero chick. All that changed a few months ago when I got married. Before we married, my hubby denied having any sexual fantasies. I have lots and enjoy some kinks. We talked, though, and […]

I’ve just started dating a guy who is into being dominated. He also has quite the foot fetish. Problem is, I have ZERO experience with any sort of kinky sex. He’s 35 and has been around the block, while I’m 24 and all I’ve ever had is sex with guys who claimed to have no […]

Last year I began a sexual relationship with someone from my university. He was graduating so we just kept it light and had fun. Even though he’s no longer here, we have kept in contact and get together whenever he’s in town. Recently he propositioned me, asking if I would have a threesome with him […]

I’m a 21-year-old hetero, two weeks from finishing my tour in Afghanistan, and I have a question about strip clubs. I live in St. Louis and enjoy the pleasures of East St. Louis as often as I can. One of the first things I’m going to do when I get home is get drunk and […]

Being one of those poor uninsured types, I went to the Haight Ashbury Free Clinic in San Francisco to get some stuff in my throat checked out. I described my problems–weird tonsil spots and a lump in the back of my throat– to the evening’s practitioner and said that I had felt around back there […]

Any regrets about 2004? One Concerned Dude Regrets? I’ve had a few. But thanks to short- and long-term memory loss (I drove a nail into my own head in fourth grade–really), I couldn’t recall any. So just for you, OCD, I pulled the last 52 installments of Savage Love from the vaults and read through […]

I’m a woman in an LTR. Recently I had a discussion about anal sex with my guy. Knowing that I was a little nervous, he was GGG and let me experiment on him first. Well, it worked out great, and we both found pleasure in anal play. However, last time I was fingering him, I […]

My girlfriend and I have been together for two years but we are not sexually compatible. Her ideal amount of sex would be twice a month. For me the number is closer to once a day. We’ve reached a compromise that usually comes out to three times a week, but that number leaves her feeling […]

Gentle Readers: If there’s ever been any doubt about how seriously I take my responsibilities, this column should lay ’em to rest. Not only am I sharing my advice-giving duties this week–note the dual byline, above–my co-advisor, Jill Corral, is paying to play. Last year I agreed to auction off a chance to give advice […]

Dear Readers: A few weeks back I printed a letter from Mutilated and Comeless (MAC), a 24-year-old who lost the head of his penis–the glans–in a botched circumcision as an infant. MAC hasn’t had an orgasm since he was 16 years old, and the few women he’s slept with as an adult either didn’t notice […]