Dan Savage

I’m still on vacation. Here’s another column from the Savage Love archives, which are housed at Queens University in Kingston, Ontario. My girlfriend and I only see each other on weekends. To overcome the overwhelming desire to jerk off during the week, I have discovered that I get great pleasure urinating on myself. I don’t […]

Hey, Everybody: I‘m on vacation–my first in years–so I’ll be running some much-loved, frequently requested classic Savage Loves for the next few weeks. A couple of months ago you invited women to send in cunnilingus tips for straight guys. We’re still waiting for that column, Dan. What gives? Didn’t any women send in tips? Straight […]

I’m a 32-year-old heterosexual female who was stricken with near-terminal cancer eight years ago. I’ve gone through every sort of treatment known to mankind (and had the gross misfortune of going through menopause at 27 years old). I was sort of a late bloomer when the disease took hold, and I had only had sex […]

I have recently been exploring my bi side and experimenting with other men. I’ve come to a point of being perfectly comfortable with my sexuality: I’m attracted to both women and men, but I’m predominantly attracted to women. I hate the idea of having to hide this. I’ve read Dossie Easton’s book The Ethical Slut, […]

I’m sure this won’t be the only response you receive regarding your advice to OBGYN, the pro-choice girl whose pro-life boy refused to have intercourse with her unless she agreed to have the baby if she got pregnant. Your advice was totally fucked up. I take 95 percent of what could be considered liberal positions, […]

Background: Not long ago, a certain woman went from being my brother’s “fuck-buddy” to being his girlfriend. From what I can tell she is GGG. I am in my mid-30s, my brother and his girlfriend are in their early 40s. So here I am, finding this woman very attractive. When we were all out together […]

Just in time for Pride Month, advice for 15-year-old fags and dykes from grown up gays and lesbians… Three words: HIGH SCHOOL ENDS. No matter how much life sucks right now, it will get better. It’ll never be all rainbows and happiness, but some day you’ll know, your family will know, your friends will know, […]

I started teaching high-school freshmen three years ago when I was 23. I was closer in age/culture to most of my students than I was to the other teachers. That first year I bonded with a lot of the students; in particular with a small group of boys that were on the basketball team I […]

I’m a straight foot fetishist and, like any other American male, I regularly Google my fetish. Last night I ran across a website promoting foot fetish parties in New York City: www.foot-worship-party.com. Have you heard of this event? Is it legit? Is it legal? For a guy with a foot fetish, it seems almost too […]

You wrote this two weeks ago: “Hello, straight people? Most of you seem content to merely rubberneck while gay people have the shit kicked out of us, and while that’s maddening, I suppose it’s understandable. It’s not your fight. But what explains your passivity when your own rights are being attacked?” I think it’s bullshit […]

I was cruising for sex online and made a date to meet up with two guys for anonymous play. When we arrived at the one guy’s apartment, he asked us if we would fuck him bareback. I said no, but the other guy said he would. The bottom then asked us if we were both […]

I am a 26-year-old hetero male, and I recently started hooking up with a new girl. She’s very cute and smart and I’m really attracted to her. During a recent make out session, she informed me that she has HPV, the STD that causes genital warts. From what I’ve read, condoms don’t necessarily mean you’re […]