Dan Savage

I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful man for four months. He treats me better than anyone I’ve ever been with. (I’m 29.) The problem? I’m very adventurous sexually. I’m a freaky girl. I like to be spanked, choked, fisted, and I’m into anal sex. He’s a straight-laced officer in the armed forces, and […]

I am a 25-year-old SWM who lives in a large apartment complex. Over the past several months, the woman who lives upstairs from me has fallen into the habit of coming downstairs once or twice a week and giving me a blowjob. She seems fairly normal, and is about 10 years older than me. She […]

Dear Readers: I’m proud to present my long- delayed column devoted to advice for 15-year-old girls. What do the women who read “Savage Love” know now that they wish they’d known when they were 15? You can read all about it below. But before I open the girl-power spigot, I wanna get two things off […]

I’m a 20-year-old bi guy with a girlfriend of seven months and a few male friends-with-benefits (FWBs). I’m happy, but I have a kink and I’m wondering how I could safely explore it. I want to try hustling. A random guy picking me up on the street and paying me for sex is an elusive […]

I’m a normal guy except for one thing: I’m attracted to zombies. When I was a kid, I loved to watch horror films that featured them. Then as a teen, I started to masturbate watching zombie flicks. I fantasize about having sex with zombies while trying not to get bitten but eventually I end up […]

Here’s my wah-wah: I’m 20, gay, and my boyfriend of eight months is into tying me up. I work out a lot and I have pretty decent muscles, and something about tying me up makes him extra horny. I’m wondering if this gonna warp me somehow? Why is it so much fun? My main problem […]

I’m a late-20s straight man in a BDSM relationship with a dominant woman. She enjoys depriving me of orgasms for long periods of time, and she likes to keep me in a male chastity belt. It’s a rather high-tech, custom-fitted thing made of stainless steel and lined in silicone. It makes it impossible for me […]

I am a 34-year-old woman. I recently became reacquainted with a boyfriend from college. He lives in Alaska and I live on the East Coast. We hadn’t seen each other since 1993. We only broke up then because we were both graduating and headed our separate ways. We have continued our snail-mail and e-mail correspondence […]

I am a 15-year-old boy and I’ve never had a girlfriend and I wanted to ask you personally, how do you get girls? Like the best way to get them, so they think I am interesting. I await your orders. Teenager Going To Waste There’s nothing I enjoy more than ordering around the odd teenage […]

I am a 21-year-old bisexual male who recently moved back home to Canada. For the last two months I was overseas I was involved with my first male partner. He was a virgin, I was not. He knew about my bisexuality and one night propositioned me. I refused because I was not really all that […]

Holy cow, Dan! What a mean response! I totally disagree that there is a direct parallel between mugging old ladies and having unsafe sex with an HIV diagnosis. The old ladies have no way to protect themselves, whereas EVERY SINGLE PARTNER that sleeps with an HIV-er has the choice to use a condom. I work […]