Sex

Just when you thought you understood the world, Dan chats with open relationships guru Tristan Taormino, to tell you to CLOSE IT UP. Monogamy is where it’s at these days. Just for a while. Also, a woman in a long distance relationship is trying to embrace video sex. But she worries that she doesn’t look […]

Your expertise is needed. Please can you tell us where you come down on the question of whether Andrew Cuomo has pierced nipples or not, as per the photos going round of something odd definitely visible under his polo shirt. This is an important issue and right in your wheelhouse so please give us your […]

I’m a 23-year-old, single genderqueer (and any-gender-dating) dick-possessor. I’ve played a few times with chastity devices, and each experience has been excruciatingly painful. I would love your help determining if this is a matter of my body not being compatible with chastity or if there’s a device/method that would work better for me. Some details […]

I have been with my boyfriend for three years and our sex life is nonexistent. We have not had any sexual relations in a year and a half. Three months ago I discovered a pair of panties in our apartment—panties that were not mine—and assumed he was cheating. He informed me it was a tool […]

I’m hoping you can reply to my letter by email. You can also post this, if you want, as maybe someone else has had the same problem. I have a son, who I gave up for adoption in England. Later I moved to Canada. I contacted him many years ago. We wrote to each other, […]

Sometimes people call us when they’re drunk. Sometimes they call us about their dogs. Welcome to the center of this Venn diagram. Also, a woman has been invited to a “costume wedding.” She will be required to dress up like a character in a movie. Is this asking too much? On the Magnum version of […]

A gay man was hooking up at a bathhouse. His brand-new lover wanted to bring a little romance into the encounter by saying the caller’s name and complimenting him. The caller was horrified. Isn’t bathhouse sex supposed to be anonymous? Meanwhile, in another corner of our universe, a woman is appalled that her boyfriend closes […]

A straight man was dating a woman, and it felt great. Until she gave him the “I’m not ready for a relationship” line. Is this always a lie? What does it mean? Dan spells it out, with no sugar on top. A man is worried about his new girlfriend. You see, she has never had […]

Straight female with a question. I’ve never really told anyone about this because it’s so weird and gross. It involves my bowel movements, so it’s not very sexy. (No offense to scat lovers.) After I have a normal bowel movement, I pull up my jeans. When I do that, the crotch seam presses on my […]

Gay guy here, Dan. What’s the ethical response when someone I recently worked with hits me up on a kink site and shares his face pic without knowing who I am? We didn’t work together for long but from our dynamic I’m pretty sure he wouldn’t be interested if he knew it was me. We […]