Sex

Yes, I am coming to a gay man for pregnancy sex advice. I’ve been reading your column for years and know what you’re going to say, but need to hear you actually say it. The situation: I am 5.5 months pregnant with a fuck buddy’s baby. Fuck buddy is sticking around for the kid and […]

Have you ever experienced conflict during a family vacation? The first call on this show might put it all in perspective for you. A protective big sister can’t stand that her 17-year-old sis is dating a 21-year-old man. Their parents don’t mind. Should big sister give the guy a chance, or is the age difference […]

TL;DR: 30-something guy recently out of a longterm relationship is trying to find a wife and start a family, but I feel like a creep every time I do anything. What should I do? Alright, the details. This is gonna be a long one, Dan. About a year ago, my longtime girlfriend and I broke […]

I’m a 40-year-old cis gay man who has generally lived his life as a bottom. I have topped from time to time in my life, it’s something I can do, but it isn’t very fulfilling. I soften up after five or ten minutes (even with ED meds) and I never ever come from topping. The […]

A happily single woman finally broke down after pressure from her friend to have some sex. Against her misgivings, he convinced her to pursue a relationship, promising that if it didn’t work out, they could go back to being friends, easy-peasy. Guess what! Now that she wants to break it off, he can’t deal with […]

I’m a 25-year-old girl dating a 26-year-old guy. My boyfriend identifies as sexually submissive. He likes to be tied up, put in women’s underwear, and locked in a chastity device, and he has a strong urge to please. I hate the term, but I suppose you could call me a “feeder.” I am turned on […]

I did one of the things you always say is bad, immature and hurtful. I was a jerk to my girlfriend for weeks because I wanted her to break up with me. It wasn’t on purpose, it wasn’t a plan, I know it was cowardly. I think she is a great woman, I just wasn’t […]

What are your thoughts on privacy between relationships? I recently started seeing someone and she let me know she’s trans. No issue with that, as I am non-binary myself. However, she didn’t want me to share this with anyone. Okay. I understand. It’s not mine to share. However, my partner asked me point-blank one day […]

I’ve written before, but I didn’t hear back from you—probably because my e-mail didn’t contain flogging or santorum or whatever. But I won’t be IGNORED, Dan. I’m a 32-year-old female. Second marriage, two kids: one kid with my ex and one with the man I cheated on my ex with (my current husband). My problem: […]

I’m a 31-year-old gay man, writing to you about my six-year relationship with a guy five years my junior. I’m struggling with a few issues, especially revolving around the opening of our relationship. When I first met my boyfriend, I was still in the party-boy phase of my twenties. I had only months prior gotten […]

This week on the newest edition of the Savage Lovecast: Why, oh why (bemoans this woman), is it that the indie, cool, female-owned sex stores never carry dildos that are big enough for her? WHY?! A gay man has been invited to be the man of honor at his sister’s wedding. But you know what’s […]

Happy new year! Bisexual woman here. My boyfriend really likes glory hole porn. I asked him if he had ever been to one, and he said no. Then out of the blue this week he said that he had lied and actually likes to go to glory holes occasionally—but only to give blowjobs, never to […]