Sex

Ever since puberty, I’ve been aware of my belly fetish. I’m not ashamed of it or anything; I just don’t bring it up because I feel it might be a little embarrassing. A little research shows that it’s not uncommon, and there are plenty of videos online about it. I’m comfortable with it. I realize […]

Hi, I’m a 33-year-old, assigned-female-at-birth mother to a three-year-old daughter and wife to an amazing cis man. I however question my sexuality. The only time I can ever remember being happy in my body was when I was pregnant. (The miracle my body created still astounds me.) In college I decided I was bi, but […]

This is so long, Dan, and I’m so sorry. I hope you read it and I hope you reply. I’ve been with my fiancé for four years. I’m 30 years old and he’s 35 years old. We’re both heterosexual and cisgender. We’ve been engaged since August of last year and our wedding is this coming […]

My sweetheart and I have been reading your columns for 20ish years. Your advice to others has been useful for even for us vanilla folk. Anyway, my question. My husband realized last year that he’s demigendered. (He still prefers he/him/his.) Hardly a shock, honestly, though I hadn’t heard the term before. Anyway, we were wondering […]

I just saw a funny meme where this mouse was leaning against a wall with his paws and a person touched his tiny butt and the mouse freaked out and acted all weird and was like how dare you. The meme said this is “a strict top when you touch their butt.” This struck me […]

I am a 23-year-old male who has been in a relationship with a great woman for four years now. She is an amazing person, and we oftentimes talk about marriage. The issue is this: I have a foot fetish and she is fully aware of it. She doesn’t like the idea of me kissing her […]

I’m a 26-year-old bisexual woman living in CA, working on my graduate degree in a STEM field. My boyfriend is 33 years old and we’ve been dating for a year. He hasn’t made a cent during that whole time and his work situation is stressing me out. He’s spent thousands of dollars “training” to become […]

A woman is hoping to find a monogamous partner who is also kinky. But when she puts the word “kinky” in her profile she gets flooded with ridiculous pervs. How can she filter out the clueless horndogs? Hear the very unpleasant tale of a gay couple who venture to an older man’s apartment for a […]

I’m a bi girl about to turn 30. I’ve faked my way through my first five-year relationship, a fact I am not proud of. (I partially blame my strict protestant upbringing.) Since then I’ve been better about sharing with new partners that I don’t come easily “with company.” I have achieved orgasm with the occasional […]

I am a 50-year-old male married for nineteen years to a female who hates sex. (Her first husband divorced her because they had too little sex. I thought there had to be a reason that would not affect us. I was wrong.) I brought some rope on our honeymoon for her to tie me up […]

I’m a 38-year-old woman who lost my husband to cancer a few years ago. He was the love of my life, we had an overall wonderful relationship physically and emotionally, and I watched him watch himself die painfully. Needless to say, it was (sometimes still is) fucking brutal and it’s been a long road to […]