Dan Savage

A married man in an open relationship needs advice about how to ask for what (and who) he wants on dating apps. 

She refuses to indulge in his feeder/gainer kink—can he just turn his feelings off?

She’s got an international part-time lover… but wants more. Should she ask for it?

A reader who hurts himself feels like he’s being judged while people into BDSM get celebrated. What’s the difference?

Grandma has a very… unusual… relationship with her pet parakeet. (Gulp.)

Pegging purists, jilted unicorns, cheating BFs, and more!

“My sex pal won’t stop mishandling our lube.” Can Dan help this person navigate their slippery situation?

“My 13-year-old son is involved in an online Dom/sub relationship. Ummmm… HELP!!”

“I’ve never been able to orgasm, and my current sexual relationship stinks. So why should I continue trying?”

“My boyfriend is secretly asking for ‘punitive’ acts from strangers. That’s cheating… right?”

Online lust, stinky butts, and falling in love with one’s sex worker—all these and more in this edition of Savage Love “quickies”!

“I post fetish content on the internet. How worried should I be that someone, like a future boss, might find out?”