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SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Get your sex advice lickety-split with this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

1. How does one find the clitoris? ย Iโ€™m told the clitoris is not hard to find โ€” go north, young man โ€” but if one tries to find it and one fails, one should pull over (or pull out) and ask for directions. ย 2. If someone tells you to โ€œdo whatever you want,โ€ should you? […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Come and Go

“I had sex in a hot tub once… and it ruined my life.”

I have a problem that Iโ€™m not sure can be solved. Iโ€™m a single gay man who hasnโ€™t touched anybody for sixteen years. Yes, you read that right: I havenโ€™t touched another person for sixteen years. Sit with that for a couple of moments. Most people donโ€™t believe me. I did something stupid in 1998 […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Off the Table

“She finds sex too painful and no longer wants to have intercourse. But… what about me?”

Iโ€™ve been happily married to my wife for fifteen years. Iโ€™m a 54-year-old man, sheโ€™s a 55-year-old woman. While sex has never been our strongest suit, weโ€™ve made the effort. But she now finds sex too painful and no longer wants to have intercourse. Iโ€™m on the larger side, which may or may not be […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Runaway, Bride!

“I’ve been married for almost two years, and we still haven’t had sex.” WHAT? ๐Ÿ‘€

Iโ€™m a 28-year-old woman married to my husband, a 29-year-old man, for almost two years, and we still havenโ€™t had sex. We met through mutual friends, dated for less than a year, and we knew pretty quickly that we wanted to get married. Things between us felt right. We genuinely liked each other, and everything […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: HUMP! Quickies

Quick (and dirty) questions from the HUMP! porn festival audience members!

Dear Readers: The twentieth anniversary HUMP! Film Festival โ€” the worldโ€™s biggest and best festival of short porn films โ€” kicked off in Seattle, Portland, and San Francisco over the last two weeks. Our amazing new collection will be touring to more than forty cities over the next few months. (Go to humpfilmfest.com to find […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Acid Tongued

“My partner was prescribed a boric acid suppository. Will I die if I eat her out?”

Iโ€™m a cis man in a monogamous relationship with a cis woman who is going through perimenopause. She was recently prescribed a boric acid suppository to help deal with some normal but persistent vaginal health issues. Her doctor and all the reliable online medical resources weโ€™ve found said we should wait โ€œ24-48โ€ hours after she […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Team Fantasize

“Don’t tease me with your hot fantasies if you don’t actually want to do ’em!”

Dear Readers: I havenโ€™t felt so good since visiting a rustic pluck-your-own chicken place for dinner last week and โ€” doctorโ€™s orders โ€” Iโ€™m not allowed to operate advice column machinery until Iโ€™m feeling better. Please enjoy this column from February 21st, 2017 and look for a brand-new column in this space next week. โ€” […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Low and Slow

“How do I stop pushing Daddies away with my neediness?”

Dear Readers: When I open a column with โ€œDear Readers,โ€ itโ€™s usually to let you know Iโ€™m taking a week off. But this is a brand-new column! All new questions, all new answers. But I intentionally dug through the mail for relatively simple questions because Iโ€™m just fried from the news. So, if you wrote […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Quickies

Solve your tricky sex problems quick with this edition of Savage Love: Quickies!

1. It turns me on when my husband fucks other men. It pisses him off when I do. His proposed โ€œfixโ€ is he gets to fuck other men (because I like it), but I donโ€™t get to fuck other men (because he hates it). This hardly seems fair. If unfairness turned you on โ€” if […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Trump and Dump

Her partner’s son is a virulent, Trump-loving homophobe. How is she supposed to put up with this?

Iโ€™m a lesbian in a big city. My partner of five years is the most wonderful woman Iโ€™ve ever met, and we are deeply in love, and plan to spend the rest of our lives together. She has a son from an early-in-life marriage to a man. He is eighteen years old, a senior in […]

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SAVAGE LOVE: Fear Factors

Her 17-year-old son is hooking up with older men, and she’s terrified.

My wife and I are a lesbian married couple in Chicago. We are also proud moms to our wonderful, dynamic 17-year-old trans son. โ€œMichaelโ€ is a great kid, and we have always enjoyed a close relationship. It has recently come to light that he is engaging in penetrative sex with men he meets on a […]

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