Cis bisexual guy here in his 20s. In the entire time Iāve been sexually active, Iāve pretty much been able to finish whenever Iād like. Iāve literally never once finished too quickly. That said, the idea of being unable to hold back my orgasm and coming too quickly has always been a big turn on for me. So much so, that in more than a few past relationships/hookups, Iāve found myself inducing a premature ejaculation. Some partners are kind and supportive about it, some seem a little annoyed or bothered. Both reactions are equally hot to me! It doesnāt happen every time I have sex, and Iām always down to take care of my partnerās orgasm in other ways either before or after the penetrative sex has come to its brief conclusion.
Iām not so much worried about if my kink is normal, but is it ethical? I havenāt told any of my hookups or long-term partners this about myself and am worried that doing so might lessen the turn on. But I do feel a little guilty that I could prolong the thrusting before I get to the busting and am pretending that I canāt for my own selfish ends. Do I owe it to them to let them know?
Finished And Secretly Thrilled
First, a pet peeve: donāt use the passive voice when talking about things you choose to do during sex...
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