Cis bisexual guy here in his 20s. In the entire time Iā€™ve been sexually active, Iā€™ve pretty much been able to finish whenever Iā€™d like. Iā€™ve literally never once finished too quickly. That said, the idea of being unable to hold back my orgasm and coming too quickly has always been a big turn on for me. So much so, that in more than a few past relationships/hookups, Iā€™ve found myself inducing a premature ejaculation. Some partners are kind and supportive about it, some seem a little annoyed or bothered. Both reactions are equally hot to me! It doesnā€™t happen every time I have sex, and Iā€™m always down to take care of my partnerā€™s orgasm in other ways either before or after the penetrative sex has come to its brief conclusion.

Iā€™m not so much worried about if my kink is normal, but is it ethical? I havenā€™t told any of my hookups or long-term partners this about myself and am worried that doing so might lessen the turn on. But I do feel a little guilty that I could prolong the thrusting before I get to the busting and am pretending that I canā€™t for my own selfish ends. Do I owe it to them to let them know?

Finished And Secretly Thrilled

First, a pet peeve: donā€™t use the passive voice when talking about things you choose to do during sex...

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