Five years ago, I met my BF while I was studying abroad. We had two amazing first months before having to start a long-distance relationship. Maybe I should say that he’s English and I’m French (hence he’s protestant and I’m Catholic—although neither of us is a church-goer), and that we have six years age difference […]
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Savage Love Letter o’ the Day: Damn you, “Feelings”!
I am a 25 year old female from upstate NY and well… I have kind of gotten myself into a messy little situation and I just don’t know what I should do. Here’s the 411: About a year ago I started seeing this older man (he’s 38) who was very direct and honest about the […]
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Savage Love Letter o’ the Day: A Straight Mess, a Gay Mess, Or Just A Mess Mess?
Around Christmas, my male best friend from college and I decided to try to take our friendship of five years to the “next level.” Shortly after we started having sex, he told me that he had lost his virginity at age 13 to a guy (and didn’t date anyone else until he was 21). That […]
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Overrated, Underrated, or Rated: Handjobs
A woman once told me, “Handjobs saved my marriage. My husband has a more active sex drive than I do, and while I’m not always in the mood to go all out, a quick handjob keeps him (and me) happy.” Sooooooooo… as a method of keeping horny men happy… HANDJOBS: OVERRATED, UNDERRATED, OR RATED? As […]
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Malawi Is Jailing Gays Who Want to Get Married, China Is Jailing Straights Who Want to…
…have orgies. In private, the professor, Ma Yaohai, 53, led a life that became intolerable to Chinese authorities: for the past six years, he was a member of informal swingers clubs that practiced group sex and partner swapping. In online chat rooms, his handle was Roaring Virile Fire. He organized and engaged in at least […]
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The Pocket Altar Boy
I was in NYC last week—for reasons I won’t go into—and dropped by the SoHo branch of Babeland, the Seattle-spawned, continent-straddling sex-toy empire. A member of Babeland’s knowledgeable staff, the lovely and talented Pam, was excited to introduce me to a new and very popular sex toy: The Sqweel. The Sqweel isn’t just giving copy […]
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Savage Love Letter o’ the Day: A Referral
I suspect you are inundated with emails on a daily basis so I understand if this one gets filtered out. But I’m seeking some advice and I feel that you are in a good position to help me, given your life experience. I recently discovered that I am pregnant. I’ve had 2 abortions in the […]
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Savage Love Letter o’ the Day: How Much Is Too Much?
Dan, my question for you involves porn. I’m a 23-year-old female living with my boyfriend of a few months. Without going into too much detail, let’s say I found his porn stash (computer, internet, pictures, drawings, etc.) in various places. Finding one stash only led me to look further to find more. All I have […]
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How to Resuscitate One’s Boner
Here is the sexiest PSA on how to correctly administer CPR you will ever see. Though no nudity is involved, it should probably be deemed NSFW. However, I think if your boss catches you watching this, you have every right to spin around and scream, “GODDAMMIT!! Do you or do you NOT care whether your […]
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Come On Baby, Light My Fire
Scientists: world’s oldest sex toy also used to start fires. The New York Daily News has a piece about the dildo where you’ll also find this box: I’m having hard time seeing the relationship between the dildo/lighter and any of these other stories. But maybe I’m dense.
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Savage Love Letter o’ the Day: Have The Threesome
I’ve been reading your column for years, and consider you my go-to source for how to run a strong and mutually satisfying relationship. I’ve been dating a younger woman (I’m 37; she’s 25) for a few months. In many ways, the relationship is great: good sex, good conversations, similar energy levels, and more. However, I’m […]
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Savage Love Letter o’ the Day 2: Boy Toys
My 15-year old son plumbs the depths of internet porn every chance he gets—on computers in our den, at school, even at dear ol’ Grandma’s. And he’s been trying out some fun new ideas on himself at home using whatever’s handy. I know teenaged boy = perpetually horny (which is his response whenever I catch […]