Savage Love Jan 8, 2009 at 4:00 am

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Doubly Victimized

Dan Savage
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"and the BBW who wastes away to skin and bones after she lands an admirer"


Wait a minute... a fat girl who gets a boyfriend who likes fat girls, then --through inattention, carelessness or simply taking her partner's desires for granted-- becomes SKINNY? When has that EVER happened? Show me ONCE.
Euphonius on January 8, 2009 at 12:36 PM Report this
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"and the BBW who wastes away to skin and bones after she lands an admirer"


Wait a minute... a fat girl who gets a boyfriend who likes fat girls, then --through inattention, carelessness or simply taking her partner's desires for granted-- becomes SKINNY? When has that EVER happened? Show me ONCE.


Not in America! There's too much Mickeedeeez!
mellowman-marsh on January 8, 2009 at 11:46 PM Report this
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im pretty sure it was a hypothetical guys
ntrecek on January 10, 2009 at 4:27 PM Report this
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DREAD - When raped, regardless of who the raper is, report it to the authorities as soon as you safely (physically and emotionally) can. Giving in is not the same as giving consent. If your current boyfriend cannot understand that, then dump him. Any good boyfriend would be 100% on your side and would want to kill the bastard that raped you.
ProudWolf on January 11, 2009 at 12:28 PM Report this
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Dread should also get some kind of help from a counselor- and lose the BF. When you are in a relationship you are supposed to be there for the other person, not questioning their motives in stressful moment.
starkmojo on January 12, 2009 at 11:01 AM Report this
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as a chubby girl, i recently had a boyfriend who admired my curves as it were, i ended up losing weight without even trying because subconciously i despised the superficial focus. needless to say i dumped that mo fo and am enjoying my supple yet lighter curves these days. it happens.
on January 31, 2009 at 1:16 PM Report this
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Don't we all just sound so self-satisfied. Sure, he's an asshole. Yes, he raped her. What about her? How much of a victim is someone who lets herself be taken in that way. How much did she set the scene, then deny her way all the way to the sheets? More than she says, betcha.
weldred on February 25, 2009 at 11:16 AM Report this

Please wait...

and remember to be decent to everyone
all of the time.

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